Hanif Khaki
The following article offers some insight to those involved in
the wonderful world known as Parenting.
There are just as many parenting styles as there are a number of
parents. Experts believe the parenting styles fall into 4
different and identifiable styles: authoritarian, indulgent,
authoritative, and uninvolved.
Let's examine this more closely. The first parenting style is
that of the authoritarian parent. These parents are like army
commanders. They prefer to issue commands and orders to their
children and fully expect their children to carry out their
orders without questioning them. Authoritarians do not welcome
nor appreciate any feedback from their children. They live by
set and defined rules in a structured environment.. These
children as we now know, are generally considered to have an
unhappy nature about them. Boys generally exhibit hostile
behaviour when dealing with frustration, whereas girls tend to
give up easily when faced with difficult situations. Both the
boys and girls however, tend to perform better in school due to
their disciplined upbringing.
The second parenting style is the indulgent parent. These
parents are generally lenient. They allow a variety of
behaviours by their children that some would describe as
immature. Essentially, they let the children look after
themselves and avoid confronting them at all costs. Indulgent
parents may also be described as non-directive or democratic.
Non-directive parents are known to parent by default, that is,
by taking virtually no action in parenting of their children.
Democratic parents, though lenient, are more aware and show a
committment to engage with their children.
The third parenting style is that of the authoritative parent.
These parents are both demanding and responsive at the same
time. Authoritative parents while expecting their their children
to behave in a certain manner, don't impose their authority and
welcome a certain amount of questioning. They demonstrate a
combination of assertiveness coupled with the ability to respond
to their children's feedback. These children appear to be more
lively and have a happier disposition about them. Their
self-confidence is more developed they seem to be more sure of
their abilities. These children also show better emotional
control and are more adept in their social skills. Gender
stereotypes are also less of an issue with authoritative
parents, as they tend to be more open minded in their outlook
towards their children's behaviour, i.e. boys playing with dolls
and girls playing with tools.
Lastly, we look at the parenting style known as "uninvolved
parenting". As the name suggests, these parents are simply
uninvolved. They are neither demanding nor responsive of their
children and they are not interested in any feedback from them.
These parents are the most likely to be irresponsible and more
often neglect their children.
We hope you found the above information insightful and will seek
out the many more resources available on this topic online.
About the author:
Hanif Khaki is the acclaimed author of numerous parenting
related articles and the founder of the popular parenting
resource site www.parenting-info.inform-about.com
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